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Dear Divorce

Mar 24th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 1 min read

Dear Divorce, I can’t believe how hard I tried to avoid you. It’s not my fault I ran in circles looking for another option. The truth is I had heard such horrible stories about you; you know you do have a really bad reputation. I was scared of and embarrassed by you and was hoping you would just go away. We both know how hard…

10 Lies We Tell Ourselves

10 Lies We Tell Ourselves Before We Have Kids

Mar 19th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 2 min read

I’m gonna get them on skis by age 3. Black diamond trails by 5. Actually 11 and 8, bunny hill. They will be bilingual. They barely get English. I’ll take them to all the restaurants we go to so they’ll have a mature palate. No kid food for us. They go to these restaurants and find one thing on the menu that suffices. Suffices after…

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How Will My Kids Remember Me?

Mar 9th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 4 min read

What do you remember about someone when they’re gone? What they did, what they said or how they made you feel? What will my kids think of when, hopefully decades from now, I’m gone? Will they think of what we did? Baking, playing Monopoly and never-ending art projects. Will they remember their mom dressed up with them at Halloween, how I loved taking them to…

5 Facts Divorced Parents Need To Expect

5 Facts Divorced Parents Need To Know

Mar 2nd, 2015 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

1. Your kids will keep asking why you got divorced. Decide what you want to say to your kids and stick to it. They will ask at unexpected times in new and interesting ways. They’ll ask one night when they don’t know that you’re really pissed at your ex. This is not the time to vent and spill all. Keep it simple and keep yourself…

The Importance Of Practicing Patience

The Importance Of Practicing Patience

Feb 26th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 4 min read

Why is patience important? So your kids are able to sit in a restaurant without causing a fuss? No. Ok, sometimes it is. But on a deeper level, the things that really matter in life take time. There are worthy years of learning ahead that require patience. There are times when it’s necessary to understand that to get the job you do like you first…

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What I Want My Kids To Know- Part 3

Feb 19th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 3 min read

Watch Out of Africa. Yes, it’s quiet and slow. I know. Just watch. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Don’t be envious of mirages. Rowing harder doesn’t help if it’s in the wrong direction. The only way to get through tough sh*t it is to go through it. Be authentic. I’d rather you flunk a test than be an a**hole. Sometimes I…

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How To Keep Your Kids Honest

Feb 15th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 4 min read

Lying is a normal part of childhood development but that doesn’t mean it should go unchecked. How do you keep your kids honest and what should you do when they lie? Start by being honest yourself. As adults we tell countless “white lies” throughout the day: “I love your new shirt.” “I have to cancel my appointment, I’m in bed with a cold.” “Your kids…

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Hello Valentine

Feb 10th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 4 min read

About a month ago, I told my man I was “not a Valentine’s girl.” I insisted no gifts and assured him we could stay home and order pizza. I did not care about Valentine’s Day and I meant it. Yesterday I changed my mind. A little. I glanced at the calendar and noticed Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday night this year. I quickly ran…

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5 Lessons Learned From My Divorce

Feb 9th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 3 min read

I was with my ex-husband for 16 years and have been divorced for three. The separation and divorce process are at times heartbreaking, heavy, confusing, and throughout it all, always enlightening. Here are 5 lessons I learned along the way. 1. When people show you who they are, believe them I love this so much I’ll say it again. When people show you who they…

What I Want Kids To Know Part 2

What I Want My Kids To Know- Part 2

Feb 4th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 3 min read

Apologies don’t contain qualifiers. Be brave. Always have at least one good bottle of champagne in your fridge. Let go of your ego. No one cares about whatever it is that you are embarrassed of. Learn the art of doing nothing. Never drink and drive. Never smoke pot and drive, either. Don’t believe the hype. What other people think of you doesn’t matter. Manners matter….