I have heard the term “soul mate” so many times in the past week, it’s dizzying. In articles, on social media, on TV, in magazines and in my daily newspaper. I do not believe in soul mates. Never have. As a tween, teen and young woman I did hope for, dream of, a life-altering love. But one person in the universe meant for me? One…
Dating when you’re pushing 40 means previous marriages and spouses, ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, children with different parents, two different households with two different schedules, expectations, and above all, two people pretty set in the way they like to live their lives. At best, it’s very complicated and it’s always extremely messy. You meet a great guy, but he lives far away, has a demanding career…
There is nothing wrong with a good boo-hoo period post breakup. Take your time and when you are through with the tears, listen to these and rock out. “Shake It Out” by Florence + The Machine “And it’s hard to dance with the devil on your back. So shake him off, oh woah.” “Hit The Road Jack” by Ray Charles “Hit the road Jack and…
After 16 years I found myself single again having experienced only one mature relationship. I hoisted my big girl pants up and reluctantly put myself back out into the dating world. One day I went on a non-date and decided, to my shock, that I wished it were a date. My non-date then asked me on a real date, which I thought was another non-date….
An entire bicker free day. She took your book? He changed the channel mid show? Too bad. Zip it. Sleep. Real sleep as in sleeping until you naturally wake up and then going back to sleep for two more hours. Wine. Good wine, wine that doesn’t come in a box, wine we don’t normally buy for ourselves. A week off from making dinner. A week…
Bruce Jenner won the gold medal in the decathlon at the 1976 Summer Olympics in Montreal, making him one of the greatest athletes in the world. I was 2 years old. I never knew Bruce Jenner the athlete, I never knew Bruce Jenner of “Wheaties” box fame. My experience with Bruce Jenner has been through mainstream media over the past decade. The Bruce Jenner I…
Dear Son and Daughter, Consider this a fair warning, do NOT try and manipulate your father and me. Yes we are divorced and we don’t always see eye to eye. But, we work together when it comes to you and we will not let you try and use our differences to your advantage. Here is a little secret, your father and I go to counseling…
“Did he have a girlfriend? Was he cheating?” These are usually the first questions asked when news of a divorce spreads. It was the very first thing someone very close to me asked when told my ex and I had separated. It seems simple. Married + Cheating = Divorce. I am divorced and have many friends who have also gone through it. Some of us…
I sometimes wonder about the ways in which I am screwing you up. How I do screw you up won’t be in the ways I think it will be. That scares and intrigues me. Don’t get too hung up on traffic and weather. Always keep supplies in your car in case of a severe traffic jam. Water, non-perishable snacks and a large lidded jar (Emily)….
Dear Divorce, I can’t believe how hard I tried to avoid you. It’s not my fault I ran in circles looking for another option. The truth is I had heard such horrible stories about you; you know you do have a really bad reputation. I was scared of and embarrassed by you and was hoping you would just go away. We both know how hard…
