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5 Lessons Learned From My Divorce

Feb 9th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 3 min read

I was with my ex-husband for 16 years and have been divorced for three. The separation and divorce process are at times heartbreaking, heavy, confusing, and throughout it all, always enlightening. Here are 5 lessons I learned along the way. 1. When people show you who they are, believe them I love this so much I’ll say it again. When people show you who they…

What I Want Kids To Know Part 2

What I Want My Kids To Know- Part 2

Feb 4th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 3 min read

Apologies don’t contain qualifiers. Be brave. Always have at least one good bottle of champagne in your fridge. Let go of your ego. No one cares about whatever it is that you are embarrassed of. Learn the art of doing nothing. Never drink and drive. Never smoke pot and drive, either. Don’t believe the hype. What other people think of you doesn’t matter. Manners matter….

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The Evolution Of An Anniversary

Jan 30th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

On October 6th, 2001 I got married. On January 30, 2012 the Court of Common Pleas of Philadelphia County decreed that I was hereby divorced from the bonds of matrimony. My feelings on each of the past 13 October 6ths have run the gamut. Happiness, joy and celebratory marked the first and second. Excitement at year three, our first baby had just been born! Calm…

What I Want Kids To Know Part 1

What I Want My Kids To Know- Part 1

Jan 27th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 2 min read

Here are 32 things I want my kids to know as they grow into adults: I was picked on. A lot. If you are, it really sucks, but it does get better. Talk to someone about it. Don’t twist yourself into a pretzel for anyone. It won’t work in the long run, you will un-ravel. Don’t sext. Trust your gut. Don’t get a sleazy prom…

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Death Via Minivan

Jan 23rd, 2015 Parenting Abby King 2 min read

Telephone ringing… “Hi.” “Hey, hold on a sec, I’m having a MAJOR knock down, drag out fight with my husband.” “Ok.” “Hi, I’m back.” “Everything ok?” “No. He wants me to get a minivan.” For many of us, the minivan is the final straw, and unlike all of the other lines we begrudgingly stepped over with a shrug and a sigh, this is the one…

Everything I Needed To Know For Motherhood I Learned From Yoga

Everything I Needed To About Motherhood I Learned From Yoga

Jan 21st, 2015 Parenting Abby King 5 min read

Keep your eyes on your own mat. Don’t worry about what anyone else is doing. The guy on your right can bend his legs into lotus while in a handstand. The woman on your left can’t touch her toes. We all have our own work to do, and what we each have to work with is unique. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else in yoga…

An Open Apology To My Kids On The Subject Of My Divorce

An Open Apology To My Kids On The Subject Of My Divorce

Jan 19th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 4 min read

I am sorry we failed. I will forever feel guilty that we broke your home and world apart. I know it’s ultimately for the best, but I know, and you have explicitly told me, that you would rather us all live together with some tension than separately tension-free. You don’t know that I was no longer living and now you have a mother, when before…

Parents Are Just People

Parents Are Just People

Jan 3rd, 2015 Parenting Abby King 2 min read

There are certain moments etched forever in my memory. January 28, 1986; the day the space shuttle Challenger exploded. A random evening in the fall of 1987; my first real kiss. November 4th 2008; the day we elected our first African American President. And a summer day in 1995; the day I realized my father was a mere mortal. The timing is different for everyone…

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In A World Where Anything Goes, What Lines Are Left?

Nov 21st, 2014 Everything Else Abby King 2 min read

It used to be that the parents of a daughter had only one job: Raise her to be a confident, independent woman with a strong sense of self. Times have changed. As the mother of a 7-year-old girl, I am keenly aware that the many lines once drawn in the sand have been erased. Now, with the release of the infamous Kim Kardashian booty (and…

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How Kids Learn About Internet Bullying

Oct 29th, 2014 Everything Else Abby King 3 min read

A report trickled into mainstream consciousness last week and within 24 hours it was “news.” At first, I ignored the links on my news feed that started with “Renée Zellweger.” But soon they were of the whack-a-mole variety; every time one was passed by, another immediately popped up. Then I saw the news – actually the faux news – on the Today show: Renee had…