I’m gonna get them on skis by age 3. Black diamond trails by 5. Actually 11 and 8, bunny hill. They will be bilingual. They barely get English. I’ll take them to all the restaurants we go to so they’ll have a mature palate. No kid food for us. They go to these restaurants and find one thing on the menu that suffices. Suffices after…
What do you remember about someone when they’re gone? What they did, what they said or how they made you feel? What will my kids think of when, hopefully decades from now, I’m gone? Will they think of what we did? Baking, playing Monopoly and never-ending art projects. Will they remember their mom dressed up with them at Halloween, how I loved taking them to…
1. Your kids will keep asking why you got divorced. Decide what you want to say to your kids and stick to it. They will ask at unexpected times in new and interesting ways. They’ll ask one night when they don’t know that you’re really pissed at your ex. This is not the time to vent and spill all. Keep it simple and keep yourself…
Why is patience important? So your kids are able to sit in a restaurant without causing a fuss? No. Ok, sometimes it is. But on a deeper level, the things that really matter in life take time. There are worthy years of learning ahead that require patience. There are times when it’s necessary to understand that to get the job you do like you first…
Watch Out of Africa. Yes, it’s quiet and slow. I know. Just watch. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Don’t be envious of mirages. Rowing harder doesn’t help if it’s in the wrong direction. The only way to get through tough sh*t it is to go through it. Be authentic. I’d rather you flunk a test than be an a**hole. Sometimes I…
Lying is a normal part of childhood development but that doesn’t mean it should go unchecked. How do you keep your kids honest and what should you do when they lie? Start by being honest yourself. As adults we tell countless “white lies” throughout the day: “I love your new shirt.” “I have to cancel my appointment, I’m in bed with a cold.” “Your kids…
About a month ago, I told my man I was “not a Valentine’s girl.” I insisted no gifts and assured him we could stay home and order pizza. I did not care about Valentine’s Day and I meant it. Yesterday I changed my mind. A little. I glanced at the calendar and noticed Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday night this year. I quickly ran…
I was with my ex-husband for 16 years and have been divorced for three. The separation and divorce process are at times heartbreaking, heavy, confusing, and throughout it all, always enlightening. Here are 5 lessons I learned along the way. 1. When people show you who they are, believe them I love this so much I’ll say it again. When people show you who they…
Apologies don’t contain qualifiers. Be brave. Always have at least one good bottle of champagne in your fridge. Let go of your ego. No one cares about whatever it is that you are embarrassed of. Learn the art of doing nothing. Never drink and drive. Never smoke pot and drive, either. Don’t believe the hype. What other people think of you doesn’t matter. Manners matter….
On October 6th, 2001 I got married. On January 30, 2012 the Court of Common Pleas of Philadelphia County decreed that I was hereby divorced from the bonds of matrimony. My feelings on each of the past 13 October 6ths have run the gamut. Happiness, joy and celebratory marked the first and second. Excitement at year three, our first baby had just been born! Calm…
