When Children Go Back And Forth Between Homes

Dec 9th, 2017 Divorce Abby King 1 min read

My parents are approaching their 50th wedding anniversary, so as a Solo Mom of a 14-year-old boy and 10-year-old girl, I haven’t walked in my kids’ “children of divorce” shoes. In the seven years since their dad and I separated, there have been ups and downs along the way. Ups and downs are expected for all on the roller coaster of adolescence, but I wonder…


Another Person To Love

Sep 27th, 2017 Divorce Abby King 8 min read

It’s early October in Southampton New York and the usually packed dining room is sparse, the summer brunch crowd waned. It’s been a good weekend, 8 friends joking, catching up on kids, husbands and divorces and drinking lots of wine. We’re winding down our trip with some eggs and last laughs when my phone rings. It’s my 6-year-old daughter Emily. As she rattles on about…


How To Show Up For A Friend Going Through A Divorce

Jun 6th, 2017 Divorce Abby King 7 min read

I recently read an article about how important it is, in general, to “show up” for your friends. It got me thinking, specifically, about the toughest time I’ve gone through, my divorce. A few showed up, many didn’t and I understand why. Unless or until you’ve personally gone through it, you don’t know what to do. To those who would have shown up had they…


My Ex and Me. Together, Unhappy.

Mar 3rd, 2017 Divorce Abby King 4 min read

Thursday and Friday mornings my fiancé Andrew leaves for work while I slumber, answer emails or watch the news in bed. Both divorced, our kids are with our exes these mornings. Free from school drop off, my flexibly scheduled self can usually afford the luxury of extra time under the covers. As a light-sleeping night owl this is especially helpful since I typically don’t enter…

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Co-Parents Who Can’t Agree On Co-Parenting

Jun 2nd, 2016 Divorce Abby King 4 min read

Divorced 5 years, I’ve accepted that I cannot change my ex. He does what he wants, doesn’t do anything he doesn’t want, my opinions and concerns hold little weight and that which didn’t work between us in marriage will definitely not work between us in divorce. Like most couples, intact or estranged, we have the same recurring arguments. One issue, the instigator of dozens of…

It’s The Little Things….

May 13th, 2016 Divorce Abby King 5 min read

I was with my ex for 14 years, 10 of them married until my divorce was finalized in 2012. It was a tough road but I am definitely on the other side and much happier. While going through a terrible time, it’s the little things that bring a few smiles your way. Here are some things that helped get me through my dark days. The…


My Relationship With My Son Is Better BECAUSE I’m Divorced

Oct 14th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 4 min read

There are lots of negatives to divorce but silver linings are there to those who look outside the “what my life should look like” box. Lately I’ve been giving pause to appreciate one silver lining in particular. My relationship with my son. Our relationship is better because I’m divorced. For his first three years I was numero uno, Ben’s main mom, his one and only….


Is There A Good Age For Divorce?

Sep 24th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 3 min read

Have you ever said to your ex, “think we can stick it out till the kids graduate high school?” This weekend my son had a basketball game. My parents, daughter, ex and I sat together and my dad and ex chatted throughout the game. That night when Emily went to bed she said, “I liked seeing daddy sitting with grandma and grandpa. Have they ever…

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Dear Friends, Re: My Divorce

Aug 12th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 5 min read

Dear Friends, Some of us have been friends since childhood, some high school or college. For many of us, our friendships began when our first borns were off to school. We got our kids together, enjoyed lunch dates, had girls nights out, book clubs and on Saturday nights we got sitters and with husbands in tow, headed out for food, drinks and if we were…