My Secrets Hide In Plain Sight. In My Hair.

Aug 27th, 2015 Everything Else Abby King 4 min read

For the last 20 years I have gone to the same hair stylist in New York City. He is a calm, quiet, tranquil man of few words. His process is meticulous and time-consuming. He looks at my dry curls. I am washed twice, conditioned and returned to his chair for an hour of precision cutting. My coiled, frizzy hair is dried and then flat-ironed piece…


My 8-Year-Old Turned Me Into A Feminist

Aug 13th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 3 min read

As my 8-year-old daughter threw the football with her father, another unfamiliar father walked by and made mention of her impressive ability. Whether or not he was impressed by her ability because she was a girl wasn’t known for certain, though it was certainly implied. Following this “compliment,” I heard my husband say, “Yeah, she’s got three brothers.” Immediately, I flinched. The implication that Emily’s…

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Dear Friends, Re: My Divorce

Aug 12th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 5 min read

Dear Friends, Some of us have been friends since childhood, some high school or college. For many of us, our friendships began when our first borns were off to school. We got our kids together, enjoyed lunch dates, had girls nights out, book clubs and on Saturday nights we got sitters and with husbands in tow, headed out for food, drinks and if we were…


Holding Onto Family In The Post Divorce World

Jul 13th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 3 min read

Following their official breakup announcement, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner were photographed at their vacation home in the Bahamas. People magazine has suggested that postdivorce, they plan to continue living together at their California estate. Is this just another example of crazy celebrities living differently from the rest of us? What is going on? If it’s true, I suspect what’s going on is something that…


My Kids Get The Best Me

Jun 26th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 3 min read

A few months ago a close friend told me that I am not sweet. She also says this about herself so I am therefore not to be offended. Last week my 8-year-old daughter told me that I am sooooo sweet. She is an Ivy League suck up (my daughter, not my friend) but I know she is sincere in this offering. Her compliment left me…

I Do Not Believe In Soul Mates

I Do Not Believe In Soul Mates

Jun 16th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 2 min read

I have heard the term “soul mate” so many times in the past week, it’s dizzying. In articles, on social media, on TV, in magazines and in my daily newspaper. I do not believe in soul mates. Never have. As a tween, teen and young woman I did hope for, dream of, a life-altering love. But one person in the universe meant for me? One…

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Dating At 40 Is Messy

Jun 3rd, 2015 Relationships Abby King 2 min read

Dating when you’re pushing 40 means previous marriages and spouses, ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, children with different parents, two different households with two different schedules, expectations, and above all, two people pretty set in the way they like to live their lives. At best, it’s very complicated and it’s always extremely messy. You meet a great guy, but he lives far away, has a demanding career…


10 Break Up Songs For When You Are Done Wallowing

May 18th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 2 min read

There is nothing wrong with a good boo-hoo period post breakup. Take your time and when you are through with the tears, listen to these and rock out. “Shake It Out” by Florence + The Machine “And it’s hard to dance with the devil on your back. So shake him off, oh woah.” “Hit The Road Jack” by Ray Charles “Hit the road Jack and…


12 Ways Love Is Different Before And After Divorce

May 14th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 3 min read

After 16 years I found myself single again having experienced only one mature relationship. I hoisted my big girl pants up and reluctantly put myself back out into the dating world. One day I went on a non-date and decided, to my shock, that I wished it were a date. My non-date then asked me on a real date, which I thought was another non-date….


10 Things Moms Really Want For Mothers Day

May 9th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 1 min read

An entire bicker free day. She took your book? He changed the channel mid show? Too bad. Zip it. Sleep. Real sleep as in sleeping until you naturally wake up and then going back to sleep for two more hours. Wine. Good wine, wine that doesn’t come in a box, wine we don’t normally buy for ourselves. A week off from making dinner. A week…