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Divorce Dish: How To Deal With The Ex Regarding Co-Parenting

Jul 10th, 2018 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

Night Owls Question: My ex and I have been separated for over a year and have three kids, ages 8, 11 and 13. When they come home to me they’re exhausted and tell me how late they’re allowed to stay up at their dad’s. He doesn’t bother to get up and put them to bed so they just hang out till they crash. How can…

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Divorce Dish: The Social Life Of The Newly Separated

Jun 4th, 2018 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

Divorced Not Dead Question: Now that I’m divorced, my friends have taken me off their call lists. They only include me in girl’s nights, which are fun, but the energy is different than a night with couples. I miss the normalcy of those Saturday nights and I miss the husbands too. I wish when they make their plans they’d remember that I’m divorced, not dead!…

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Divorce Dish: Dating Post Divorce

May 23rd, 2018 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

Divorce Dish is my monthly advice column specifically focused on issues that arise for the divorced community. It’s offered exclusively on Divorce Force -an online community connecting and empowering those affected by divorce. I will be re-posting snippets of these columns with links to the full text. Enjoy! Introducing My New Boyfriend To My Kids, How Soon Is Too Soon? Question: I’ve been dating someone…

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Breaking Up? What Happened?

Apr 11th, 2018 Relationships Abby King 2 min read

Some couples live their relationships out loud paying no mind to the rest of us. They fight in public and replay the highlights to their barista while ordering morning coffee. When they end their union and part ways, only a few ask questions. Only a few are surprised. The rest of us, we keep our downward spirals close to our vests. In better times, venting…

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My Stepsons Don’t Adore Me And That’s OK

Feb 26th, 2018 Divorce Abby King 4 min read

 My second husband Andrew and I have been a couple for five years, last spring we married. When we started dating my kids (boy and girl) were nine and six, and his two boys were seven and three. I know it didn’t happen immediately, but now it seems that my son and daughter have always loved Andrew. My girl is effusive and generous with her…

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Are Fear of Failure And Embarrassment Keeping You Coupled?

Jan 3rd, 2018 Relationships Abby King 8 min read

My first marriage ended in divorce. I’d like to say we consciously uncoupled but the last few years of our union were filled with tension, lies, betrayal, arguments, name calling and sadness until utterly exhausted I threw my hands up. After two therapists, two years separated and with nothing changing, I called my ex and told him, “I’m going to call a lawyer. Unless you…

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Friendship In Your Forties

Dec 9th, 2017 Everything Else Abby King 5 min read

I recently talked with a friend experiencing angst and exclusion within a friendship. Several women I know are agonizing over the invitation list to their children’s mitzvah celebrations, afraid of the repercussions of necessary cuts. One good friend continually gets upset when she hears of even just two friends hanging out without her. Another despises being the last to hear big news. At times I’ve…

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When Children Go Back And Forth Between Homes

Dec 9th, 2017 Divorce Abby King 1 min read

My parents are approaching their 50th wedding anniversary, so as a Solo Mom of a 14-year-old boy and 10-year-old girl, I haven’t walked in my kids’ “children of divorce” shoes. In the seven years since their dad and I separated, there have been ups and downs along the way. Ups and downs are expected for all on the roller coaster of adolescence, but I wonder…

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When Dating, Take OFF Your Rose Colored Glasses

Oct 25th, 2017 Relationships Abby King 3 min read

One of my girlfriends is in relationship flux. In discussing and breaking down the specifics and looking at how she got where she is, she told me that her man has totally changed and is so different than she thought. There was a time, that in solidarity I would have reinforced the view from which she stands. “Yes, he has totally changed, he is not…

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Another Person To Love

Sep 27th, 2017 Divorce Abby King 8 min read

It’s early October in Southampton New York and the usually packed dining room is sparse, the summer brunch crowd waned. It’s been a good weekend, 8 friends joking, catching up on kids, husbands and divorces and drinking lots of wine. We’re winding down our trip with some eggs and last laughs when my phone rings. It’s my 6-year-old daughter Emily. As she rattles on about…