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Why You Shouldn’t Hide Your Flaws

Apr 24th, 2017 Relationships Abby King 3 min read

Know it all, liar, messy, neat freak, indecisive, needy, homebody, world traveler, party girl, party boy, lazy, hyper organized, cheater, sarcastic, tactless, short tempered, pushover, confrontational, controlling, spendthrift, uber frugal. Imagine if we all wore our flaws where potential mates could see them. A la “The Scarlet Letter,” you would write your top few flaws on sign with a string around your neck and potential…

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What People Ask When You’re Getting Married For The Second Time

Apr 21st, 2017 Relationships Abby King 3 min read

My wedding is in a few weeks and trust me, getting married for the second time in my 40s is a lot different than when I did it the first time in my 20s. This time around I experienced a hot flash while trying on wedding dresses, I won’t be wearing a veil, cutting a cake or dancing a first dance. There isn’t a bridal…

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Why Sleeping With Your Ex Is A Bad Idea

Apr 27th, 2016 Relationships Abby King 4 min read

After 11 years (5 in marriage) and two children together, Megan Fox filed for divorce from Brian Austin this past August. On separation papers, dated June 6, 2015, she cited “irreconcilable differences” as the reason for the split. Last week Megan debuted a baby bump at CinemaCon in Las Vegas and has subsequently confirmed her estranged husband is the father to be. I haven’t cared…

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Engaged Without An “Engagement Ring.”

Feb 11th, 2016 Relationships Abby King 4 min read

Being engaged for the second time at 41 is very different than the first time in my 20’s. At 25 I wanted a traditional engagement and wedding, following the path laid before me by dozens of friends. As a mature woman, I want what suits my man and me. We haven’t yet had a meet the parents pow-wow, friends haven’t dropped off dozens of bridal…

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Why A Little Sausage Making Does My Relationship Good

Oct 20th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 3 min read

My boyfriend has a habit. He likes to sit on the edge of my bathtub while I get ready for an evening out. He is only 10 minutes from shower to out the door and since I take decidedly longer, why not spend that time catching up? My natural state of being is 80s hair band. At some point in the day I look like…

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The Only Piece Of Dating Advice You Need

Sep 25th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 5 min read

Berger told Miranda the reason her recent date hasn’t called is that “he’s just not that into you.” Jack Berger and Miranda Hobbs are not my actual friends, but I did spend 30 minutes with them on July 13, 2003, when this phrase was uttered. This phrase that would spawn a subsequent book and movie — while entertaining within the weekly episode of Sex and…

I Do Not Believe In Soul Mates

I Do Not Believe In Soul Mates

Jun 16th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 2 min read

I have heard the term “soul mate” so many times in the past week, it’s dizzying. In articles, on social media, on TV, in magazines and in my daily newspaper. I do not believe in soul mates. Never have. As a tween, teen and young woman I did hope for, dream of, a life-altering love. But one person in the universe meant for me? One…

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Dating At 40 Is Messy

Jun 3rd, 2015 Relationships Abby King 2 min read

Dating when you’re pushing 40 means previous marriages and spouses, ex-boyfriends and girlfriends, children with different parents, two different households with two different schedules, expectations, and above all, two people pretty set in the way they like to live their lives. At best, it’s very complicated and it’s always extremely messy. You meet a great guy, but he lives far away, has a demanding career…

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10 Break Up Songs For When You Are Done Wallowing

May 18th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 2 min read

There is nothing wrong with a good boo-hoo period post breakup. Take your time and when you are through with the tears, listen to these and rock out. “Shake It Out” by Florence + The Machine “And it’s hard to dance with the devil on your back. So shake him off, oh woah.” “Hit The Road Jack” by Ray Charles “Hit the road Jack and…

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12 Ways Love Is Different Before And After Divorce

May 14th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 3 min read

After 16 years I found myself single again having experienced only one mature relationship. I hoisted my big girl pants up and reluctantly put myself back out into the dating world. One day I went on a non-date and decided, to my shock, that I wished it were a date. My non-date then asked me on a real date, which I thought was another non-date….