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What My Son Needs To Know About Rape Culture

Jun 21st, 2016 Parenting Abby King 4 min read

Dear Ben, We’ve discussed sexting but I didn’t think a discussion on rape was necessary quite yet, you’re only 12 years old. I’m sure by now that you’ve heard the name Brock Turner, you’ve been hearing Stanford (a college we throw around as hopefully a future option), swimmer and athlete all buzzwords for you, things you would deem positive. I’m sure you’re wondering what all…

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The 90’s TV Shows That Forged My Views On Friendship

Jun 3rd, 2016 Everything Else Abby King 6 min read

The 90’s, a pivotal decade in my life. 16 years old in 1990 and 26 when the millennium struck, the 90’s had me struggling through the traumas of high school, the dramas of college and forging my way as an adult in New York City. Friends were my touchstones and my mirrors in a time of change and growth. Groundbreaking TV shows followed my journey…

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Co-Parents Who Can’t Agree On Co-Parenting

Jun 2nd, 2016 Divorce Abby King 4 min read

Divorced 5 years, I’ve accepted that I cannot change my ex. He does what he wants, doesn’t do anything he doesn’t want, my opinions and concerns hold little weight and that which didn’t work between us in marriage will definitely not work between us in divorce. Like most couples, intact or estranged, we have the same recurring arguments. One issue, the instigator of dozens of…

It’s The Little Things….

May 13th, 2016 Divorce Abby King 5 min read

I was with my ex for 14 years, 10 of them married until my divorce was finalized in 2012. It was a tough road but I am definitely on the other side and much happier. While going through a terrible time, it’s the little things that bring a few smiles your way. Here are some things that helped get me through my dark days. The…

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Why Sleeping With Your Ex Is A Bad Idea

Apr 27th, 2016 Relationships Abby King 4 min read

After 11 years (5 in marriage) and two children together, Megan Fox filed for divorce from Brian Austin this past August. On separation papers, dated June 6, 2015, she cited “irreconcilable differences” as the reason for the split. Last week Megan debuted a baby bump at CinemaCon in Las Vegas and has subsequently confirmed her estranged husband is the father to be. I haven’t cared…

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Why I Make My Private Life Public

Apr 5th, 2016 Everything Else Abby King 5 min read

Every couple of months I get the same phone call from my mom: “I read your latest article and I just wanted to mention…” What follows is her mentioning that my kids might read what I wrote. Or my ex, my friends, my hairstylist, my postal worker, or my doorman — and that one of these readers might not like what they read. On the…

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Sexting And More At Our Dinner Table

Mar 21st, 2016 Parenting Abby King 7 min read

As a parent, you know that heavy conversations are usually had when you least expect them. When we sat down at dinner this week, I expected a recap of the school day, a debate on March Madness and maybe a bit of the never ending debacle that is the present presidential race. I definitely did not anticipate the in-depth discussion on sexting and child pornography…

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Life Isn’t Fair And It Never Will Be

Feb 25th, 2016 Parenting Abby King 4 min read

Webster’s II Dictionary defines the following: Fair: impartial, just, in accordance with rules and standards, free from self-interest. Fair tactics, in a proper or legal way (played fair). Justice: the principal of ideal or moral rightness, the upholding of what is right, fairness, integrity in the dealings of men with each other. Peace: the absence of hostilities, a state of harmony as between persons, freedom…

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Engaged Without An “Engagement Ring.”

Feb 11th, 2016 Relationships Abby King 4 min read

Being engaged for the second time at 41 is very different than the first time in my 20’s. At 25 I wanted a traditional engagement and wedding, following the path laid before me by dozens of friends. As a mature woman, I want what suits my man and me. We haven’t yet had a meet the parents pow-wow, friends haven’t dropped off dozens of bridal…

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What I Want My Kids To Know: Part 5

Jan 11th, 2016 Parenting Abby King 2 min read

1. Disagreeing isn’t a problem. 2. How you fight can be a problem. 3. Don’t fight dirty. 4. Refusing to hold my hand in public doesn’t make you look cool. 5. Showing your mom some love is cool. 6. Kitchen table talk should never leave the kitchen table. 7. Be prudent on whom you invite to your kitchen table. 8. Assume anything you send in…