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Why Sleeping With Your Ex Is A Bad Idea

Apr 27th, 2016 Relationships Abby King 4 min read

After 11 years (5 in marriage) and two children together, Megan Fox filed for divorce from Brian Austin this past August. On separation papers, dated June 6, 2015, she cited “irreconcilable differences” as the reason for the split. Last week Megan debuted a baby bump at CinemaCon in Las Vegas and has subsequently confirmed her estranged husband is the father to be. I haven’t cared…

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Why I Make My Private Life Public

Apr 5th, 2016 Everything Else Abby King 5 min read

Every couple of months I get the same phone call from my mom: “I read your latest article and I just wanted to mention…” What follows is her mentioning that my kids might read what I wrote. Or my ex, my friends, my hairstylist, my postal worker, or my doorman — and that one of these readers might not like what they read. On the…

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Sexting And More At Our Dinner Table

Mar 21st, 2016 Parenting Abby King 7 min read

As a parent, you know that heavy conversations are usually had when you least expect them. When we sat down at dinner this week, I expected a recap of the school day, a debate on March Madness and maybe a bit of the never ending debacle that is the present presidential race. I definitely did not anticipate the in-depth discussion on sexting and child pornography…

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Life Isn’t Fair And It Never Will Be

Feb 25th, 2016 Parenting Abby King 4 min read

Webster’s II Dictionary defines the following: Fair: impartial, just, in accordance with rules and standards, free from self-interest. Fair tactics, in a proper or legal way (played fair). Justice: the principal of ideal or moral rightness, the upholding of what is right, fairness, integrity in the dealings of men with each other. Peace: the absence of hostilities, a state of harmony as between persons, freedom…

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Engaged Without An “Engagement Ring.”

Feb 11th, 2016 Relationships Abby King 4 min read

Being engaged for the second time at 41 is very different than the first time in my 20’s. At 25 I wanted a traditional engagement and wedding, following the path laid before me by dozens of friends. As a mature woman, I want what suits my man and me. We haven’t yet had a meet the parents pow-wow, friends haven’t dropped off dozens of bridal…

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What I Want My Kids To Know: Part 5

Jan 11th, 2016 Parenting Abby King 2 min read

1. Disagreeing isn’t a problem. 2. How you fight can be a problem. 3. Don’t fight dirty. 4. Refusing to hold my hand in public doesn’t make you look cool. 5. Showing your mom some love is cool. 6. Kitchen table talk should never leave the kitchen table. 7. Be prudent on whom you invite to your kitchen table. 8. Assume anything you send in…

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Dinner for One Can Be Wonderful

Nov 30th, 2015 Everything Else Abby King 4 min read

Sunday afternoon at my local gourmet market I select sea bass, pick a plump tomato and a wide zucchini. Once home I pour a nice glass of white wine, chop the tomato, dice an onion, and spiralize the zucchini. With a drizzle of olive oil and a hearty dose of kosher salt and fresh pepper I drop the sea bass into a screaming hot pan…

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Fighting In Front Of The Kids Isn’t Always Bad

Nov 19th, 2015 Parenting Abby King 4 min read

I’m divorced and at the top of divorce do and don’t lists is: “don’t fight in front of the kids.” I agree and disagree. I didn’t grow up in a loud house. Arguments between my parents were quiet and tense. Resolution was when one upset parent left the room. This wasn’t a misstep by my parents, it’s how it was for their generation. My mom…

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It Was Time To Break Up With My Therapist

Nov 2nd, 2015 Everything Else Abby King 5 min read

I broke up with my therapist today. I didn’t have any idea I was going to end our 7-year relationship yet I walked in, sat down and told her I was ok and didn’t need her anymore. She smiled and told me she had been thinking the very same thing. This was the best break-up I’ve had. 8 years ago I was in NYC for…

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Why A Little Sausage Making Does My Relationship Good

Oct 20th, 2015 Relationships Abby King 3 min read

My boyfriend has a habit. He likes to sit on the edge of my bathtub while I get ready for an evening out. He is only 10 minutes from shower to out the door and since I take decidedly longer, why not spend that time catching up? My natural state of being is 80s hair band. At some point in the day I look like…