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Dear Son And Daughter

Apr 24th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 1 min read

Dear Son and Daughter, Consider this a fair warning, do NOT try and manipulate your father and me. Yes we are divorced and we don’t always see eye to eye. But, we work together when it comes to you and we will not let you try and use our differences to your advantage. Here is a little secret, your father and I go to counseling…

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Did He Cheat?

Apr 14th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

“Did he have a girlfriend? Was he cheating?” These are usually the first questions asked when news of a divorce spreads. It was the very first thing someone very close to me asked when told my ex and I had separated. It seems simple. Married + Cheating = Divorce. I am divorced and have many friends who have also gone through it. Some of us…

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Dear Marriage

Apr 3rd, 2015 Divorce Abby King 1 min read

Dear Marriage, You weren’t what I thought you were going to be. You weren’t till death do us part. You weren’t loyalty, respect, honesty, commitment and true partnership. You offered more pain and loneliness than I expected. The fault was mine, not yours. I entered into your union, I signed your legal contract and all I was thinking about was love. I loved, felt loved…

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Dear Divorce

Mar 24th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 1 min read

Dear Divorce, I can’t believe how hard I tried to avoid you. It’s not my fault I ran in circles looking for another option. The truth is I had heard such horrible stories about you; you know you do have a really bad reputation. I was scared of and embarrassed by you and was hoping you would just go away. We both know how hard…

5 Facts Divorced Parents Need To Expect

5 Facts Divorced Parents Need To Know

Mar 2nd, 2015 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

1. Your kids will keep asking why you got divorced. Decide what you want to say to your kids and stick to it. They will ask at unexpected times in new and interesting ways. They’ll ask one night when they don’t know that you’re really pissed at your ex. This is not the time to vent and spill all. Keep it simple and keep yourself…

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5 Lessons Learned From My Divorce

Feb 9th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 3 min read

I was with my ex-husband for 16 years and have been divorced for three. The separation and divorce process are at times heartbreaking, heavy, confusing, and throughout it all, always enlightening. Here are 5 lessons I learned along the way. 1. When people show you who they are, believe them I love this so much I’ll say it again. When people show you who they…

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The Evolution Of An Anniversary

Jan 30th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 2 min read

On October 6th, 2001 I got married. On January 30, 2012 the Court of Common Pleas of Philadelphia County decreed that I was hereby divorced from the bonds of matrimony. My feelings on each of the past 13 October 6ths have run the gamut. Happiness, joy and celebratory marked the first and second. Excitement at year three, our first baby had just been born! Calm…

An Open Apology To My Kids On The Subject Of My Divorce

An Open Apology To My Kids On The Subject Of My Divorce

Jan 19th, 2015 Divorce Abby King 4 min read

I am sorry we failed. I will forever feel guilty that we broke your home and world apart. I know it’s ultimately for the best, but I know, and you have explicitly told me, that you would rather us all live together with some tension than separately tension-free. You don’t know that I was no longer living and now you have a mother, when before…